Posted by: successforrealpeople | November 8, 2008

Changing Seasons

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It takes a lot of courage to release the familiar and seemingly secure, to embrace the new. But there is no real security in what is no longer meaningful. There is more security in the adventurous and exciting, for in movement there is life, and in change there is power. ~ Alan Cohen

Life is a series of changing seasons.  There is a time for stillness, a time for renewal, a time for growth and a time for contemplation.  Which season are in you right now?  Do you feel stuck in some area?  Not sure what the next step is?  Then maybe this is a time for you to be still and listen for the voice within you to help you sort it out.  Have you been entertaining the idea of starting something new or making some change in your life?  Then this may be the time to take some action.  Have you made a significant change in your life and you’re not sure if it was the right one or not?  Then now is the time to ask yourself some questions.  Do you like where you are at this point?  Do you need to change course, pick a new path?

Embrace the season that you are in, knowing that it shall pass and change will come.  Learn to be still when you need to be.  Make a plan and take action when the time comes.  Enjoy the adventure of change and spend some time evaluating where you’ve been and where you’ve yet to go.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | November 6, 2008

Focus Your Attention On The Things You Want

“You can do anything you wish to do, have anything you wish to have, be anything you wish to be.” ~ Robert Collier

You don’t believe this quote by Robert Collier?  Let me share my latest victory with you then.  If you have been following my blog you know that I walked away from a 14 year career last spring because I had lost my passion for it.  In the meantime I have been writing and trying to decide what I wanted to do next.

I came across an ad for a position that I thought was right up my alley.  I’m a people person and need to be in a field that allows me to help others and this job fit the bill perfectly.  I applied for the position and was interviewed last week.  From the minute I walked through the door I knew that was where I wanted to be.  All throughout the interview I keep telling myself that the job was mine.

I followed up the interview with a personal thank you note and again told myself that they were going to offer me the job.  I left the day after the interview to visit my mom in Florida.  While sitting in church on Sunday the words “Ask and you will receive” came to mind and I did just that.  I stated that I wanted that job and I knew it was already mine.  Monday morning I received a call from the director who offered me the position!

I believe I got the job for two reasons (I didn’t have any experience with this particular position).  1. I went into the interview telling myself that I was the best candidate for that position and that the job was already mine.  Arrogance?  Not at all.  Self confidence and a belief that I control my destiny by controlling my thoughts.  And 2. I focused on what I wanted and keep my thoughts on that until it came to be.  I did not let other thoughts take hold in my mind that were contrary to the results I wanted.  And ultimately, I got exactly what I thought I would get…the position!

If you have not been able to reach the goals that you have set for yourself I encourage you to check out my Success Programs to help you learn how to use the strategies that I use in creating the life that I desire.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 31, 2008

A Much Needed Vacation

Happy Friday!  I’m writing to you today from my mom’s house in Florida.  I decided it was time to take a much needed vacation so Here I Am!  I won’t be writing any articles while I’m here as my plan is to just relax and enjoy my time with my mom.  You can look for my next article Thursday, November 6th.

Enjoy your weekend and I’ll be back soon.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 28, 2008

Laughter Is The Best Medicine

“Laughter gives us distance.  It allows us to step back from an event, deal with it and then move on. ” ~Bob Newhart

Often times when working towards a goal, we run into obstacles and challenges that can zap us of our energy.  If you find yourself in that place today, I invite you to take a break from the tasks at hand and simply enjoy a good laugh.

Laughing has several therapeutic benefits:

  • Reduces stress by releasing endorphins in the body which gives you a mental boost.
  • It works the heart and stomach muscles then leaves them more relaxed.
  • Improves your mood and helps to change your perspective from negative to positive.

I love to watch this video when I need a good laugh.  This little guys laugh is absolutely infectious.  I hope you enjoy it too!

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 27, 2008

Defining Your Goals

“The establishment of a clear, central purpose or goal in life is the starting point of all success.” ~Brian Tracy

One of the reasons why some people never reached the level of success that they desire is because they did not have a clear and defined goal to start with.  Saying “I want to be rich” is actually quite vague.  What is “rich”?   How much money would that mean?  What kind of lifestyle would being rich afford?  Goals need to specific in order to be attainable.

Developing a clear and precise goal takes some time.  You begin by doing some brainstorming.  Let’s say you’d like to run your own business one day.  What kind of business would it be?  What do you think you would enjoy doing?  What are your natural gifts/talents?  Would it be home-based or would you operate it from another location?  Would this be a one person business or would you need to hire other people?  You have to get clear on what it is you really want.

Let’s say you’ve decided that you enjoying sewing and you’re a very good seamstress.  You’ve decided that you would prefer to work from your home because you have the space and you would prefer not to have to commute to work.  You also decide that you don’t want the responsibility of hiring people.  Now you have narrowed your goal from “I want to own my own business” to “I am running a sewing business from my home.”  The second goal is clear and precise.

From there you break down the goal down into smaller steps.  Your written goal would look something like this:


I am running a sewing business from my home

Steps to achieve goal:

  1. Clean out the den for my new work space.
  2. Buy a multi-function sewing machine.
  3. Place ads in the newspaper advertising my business.
  4. Set aside $2500 for working capital.

Target Date:

By April 2009

As you can see by the example, the goal is clear and precise and is broken down into doable steps with a targeted completion date.  Having goals that are vague is like traveling to an unknown area without a road map or GPS.  You’ll wander around wasting precious time.

Are your goals specific or are they generalizations?  Are they in your head or are they written down?  Pick one area today that you would like to improve on and write a goal for yourself using the method I have described.  If you are having trouble writing out your goals, feel free to post what you have in the comments section and I would be happy to help you.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 25, 2008

Live An Extraordinary Life!

“Our lives are not determined by what happens to us but by how we react to what happens, not by what life brings to us but by the attitude we bring to life.  A positive attitude can cause a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes.  It is a catalyst, a spark that creates extraordinary results.” ~Anonymous

I remember years ago when I was first married and the struggles my husband and I had every winter that he was laid off from his job.  Money was tight, we lost our health insurance, and the bills seem to just pile up.  The first couple of winters were stressful as we struggled to cope with the reduction in income.

By the third year we had learned something important.  We had always managed to find a way to get through those winters.  So when the lay off came that year we were not anxious nor worried about how we would get through it.  We simply KNEW that we would and we had come to trust it.  From that point forward, we never worried about tight times again.  As a matter of fact, over the next few years, the lay offs didn’t even effect us because our whole attitude had changed which led to changes in the things we did months before the lay offs came.

The take home message here is this:  It isn’t the things that happen to us in life that determine our outcomes, it’s the way we address those things and the attitude that we have regarding them that create our outcomes. Facing your challenges with a positive attitude will help you to find a  positive solution.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 24, 2008

More Great Quotes

“Learn how to be happy with what you have while you pursue all that you want.” ~Jim Rohn

“What this power is I cannot say; all I know is that it exists and it becomes available only when a man is in that state of mind in which he knows exactly what he wants and is fully determined not to quit until he finds it.” ~Alexander Graham Bell

“Dreams are extremely important. You can’t do it unless you imagine it.”  ~George Lucas

“I’m so optimistic I’d go after Moby Dick in a row boat and take the tartar sauce with me.” ~Zig Ziglar

“There is only one success – to spend your life in your own way.”  ~Christopher Morley

“Strength is a matter of a made up mind.”  ~John Beecher

“If you don’t like who you are and where you are, don’t worry about it because you’re not stuck either with who you are or where you are. you can grow. You can change .You can be more than you are.” ~Zig Ziglar

“Spend eighty percent of your time focusing on the opportunities of tomorrow rather than the problems of yesterday.” ~Brian Tracy

“We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.”  ~Aristotle

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 23, 2008

Gratitude: The Key to Contentment and Happiness

“Gratefulness is the key to a happy life that we hold in our hands, because if we are not grateful, then no matter how much we have we will not be happy — because we will always want to have something else or something more.” ~ Brother David Steindl-Rast

You will create a paradigm shift in your world when you are able to appreciate where you are and what you have at this very moment.  You might ask how is it possible to feel grateful when you hate your job, or you’re struggling to pay the bills, or you don’t like the way your life has turned out.  The answer to that is to look around.  You will always find someone whose situation is worse than yours. Then take a good look at your own life.

  • Did you wake up this morning?  Great! You’ve been given the gift of a brand new day to seek solutions to your current situation.
  • Do you have family or friends?  Thank God for those people who give us a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen, or a hug when we need it.
  • Do you love someone?  A spouse, partner, child, a pet?  The expression and feeling of love is unequal and unmatched to any other emotion we can experience.  Focus on that today.
  • Do you live in a free country? How fortunate are you to be able to pursue life, liberty, and happiness!  Imagine living in a country where your occupation is decided for you or the number or gender of children is dictated by your government.

This is how I start my day, with gratitude and appreciation for all that is good in my life.

  • Thank you God for the gift of a brand new day. I’ll do my best to find all the good in the day that I can.
  • Thank you God for the sunshine this morning that warms my house and my body.  I’ll enjoy this beautiful fall day because I know that days like this one are winding down.
  • Thank you God for the gifts of sight, hearing, taste, smell, and touch which allows me to fully experience all aspects of life.  What a blessing!
  • Thank you God for the beautiful relationship I have with my daughter for it allows me to experience a depth of love that is beyond description.
  • Thank you God for all of the difficulties and struggles I have experienced for they have helped me to grow and to become a stronger, more confident and happy woman.
  • Thank you, thank you, thank you!

Learn to appreciate and be thankful for where you are today.  Happiness can be found and experienced right where you are if you change your focus from what you lack to what you have.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 21, 2008

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do

I believe that uncertainty is really my spirit’s way of whispering, “I’m in flux. I can’t decide for you. Something is off-balance here.” ~Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine, June 2003
I have to admit, I have experienced these times of flux on occasion too and I can’t say I enjoyed them very much.  I like things to go along smoothly and as planned.  Although I instinctively know that these times usually bring me to a better place or teach me something new about myself, I can get sucked into a quagmire in the interim.

So what can we do in the meantime?  What do you do when you don’t know what to do?  Here are some of the strategies I employ:

  • Pray or meditate – I ask for guidance or clarification.  It’s important to pay attention to the messages that you receive.  I have dismissed thoughts that have come to me before thinking they didn’t make sense or it wasn’t what I wanted to hear, only to learn later that I had received the answer the first time I asked.
  • Change Your Focus – When I feel out of sorts and am not sure what my next move is, I sometimes find it helpful to just take my mind off the issue at hand.  Often times the right solution will pop right into my head when I least expect it.
  • Exercise – Exercising is a great stress reliever for me.  It leaves me feeling re-energized and more focused.
  • Connect with Nature – Going for a walk in the woods or sitting outside in the fresh air helps me to get centered and balanced.  There’s nothing like taking in the sights, sounds, smells, and taste of nature to rejuvenate your soul.
  • Write in a Gratitude Journal – Those times of uncertainty leave us feeling as if everything is going wrong in our lives.  When I’m feeling like that I write in my gratitude journal which helps to remind me of all that is going right in my life, which leaves me feeling more positive about things.

Just remember that nothing is permanent in life and this too shall pass.  But in the meantime, try one of the strategies listed above when you don’t know what to do.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

Posted by: successforrealpeople | October 20, 2008

A Check Up From the Neck Up

“We all need a daily check up from the neck up to avoid stinkin ‘thinkin’ which ultimately leads to hardening of the attitudes.” ~ Zig Ziglar

Every one of us has experienced times when it was difficult  to keep our attitudes positive.  Our jobs can get us down.  Bills can be piling up.  The kids sometimes fight and get on our nerves.  You name it.  Life isn’t always easy and it can be a challenge to keep a positive attitude.

Zig Ziglar is one of the most down-to-earth, tell it like it is, motivational speakers out there today.  When I need an attitude boost, I listen to one of his speeches on  I also have several of his quotes on my desktop so that I have a quick reference when I need some words of wisdom.

Today I am sharing two of my favorite Zig Ziglar videos with you.  He has a great way of mixing humor with truth which makes him a joy to listen to.  If today has been one of those trying days, I hope you find some inspiration in one of the following videos.

Wishing you much happiness and success!

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