Posted by: successforrealpeople | November 30, 2008

‘Tis The Season

The holidays are upon us once again and for some people this can be a very difficult time of year.  Years past I used to fall into a depression just before the start of winter and it was due in part to not living the kind of life I had dreamed of for myself.

Money was tight, there was so much more to do to get ready for the holidays and things just hadn’t turned out the way I planned.  One particularly difficult year, a good friend of mine suggested that I take my focus off myself and put it on others that were less fortunate than me.  So I spent most of the day that Thanksgiving serving dinner to others who couldn’t afford it.  That experience left me with a sense of gratitude for all the things that were good in my life.

For Christmas that year, the kids and I decided that they would receive fewer gifts so that we could help others who were less fortune have a better Christmas.  Together we chose tags off the giving tree in one of the local stores and we each selected gifts for the recipients on the tags.  My daughter chose a girl her age and picked out gifts that she herself wanted.  My son did the same and I chose a teenage girl, knowing how difficult those years are for kids.

Our day of shopping for people we had never met left us all with such a wonderful feeling.  What I came to realize was that I could focus on what I didn’t have in my life or I could focus on what I DID have.  Either way, I was in charge of my own thoughts and feelings.

Out of that experience I developed a plan for myself that has served me well ever since.  When things are not going the way I wish them too, I focus on all that is going well and I formulate a plan or goal for changing the things I don’t like.  How I feel is a direct result of what I think.  Therefore, I choose to focus on the positive while I work towards changing the negative.

If you suffer from seasonal depression, try changing your focus.  Keep a daily gratitude list to help you see all that is good in your life.  Spend some time with positive people.  Do something nice for others less fortunate than you.  And remember that you have a choice about where you want to focus your thoughts.

Wishing you a joyous and happy holiday season!


  1. Very well said and very appropriate not only for the season but for life in general! Thank you for reminding me to think beyond myself and to put positive thinking on the front burner instead of the back. Being grateful everyday is something very doable with little or no effort and I needed to hear this. Between gratitude and faith and a new more positive way of looking at things, I’d like to think there will be progress for us all!


  2. Thanks for stopping by Stella.

    If I only manage to ever inspire one person to find a greater level of happiness, I will have fulfilled my purpose in life. But being the positive thinking person that I am, my goal is to help thousands!!

    Happy Holidays!


  3. Reminds me of a christmas when my dad did not get me or my sister anything. That truly made me appreciate everything in my life even more.

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